There may be times when you feel down in the dumps and everything is just too much to deal with. You’re not alone, this is normal. Sometimes these feelings go away on their own, but sometimes they stick around and stop you from doing the things you would normally do. When that happens I have to look in the mirror and say "KEEP CALM AND LOVE YO SELF!" I turn to my emergency SMS (Save MySelf) plan and take the time out to take care of myself. My SMS plan is just a list of things that I can do when I’m feeling down to help pick myself up again.
1) Take a hot bath
A hot bath is one of my favourite ways to relax. In this busy world it is one of the few times that I can be alone and find peace of mind. When we’re feeling down it can also affect our sleep, which also affects our mood and we can get stuck in a cycle... But the soothing nature of hot baths can also prep for your body for a good night’s sleep.
Sometimes I get boujee with it: light up my Bath & Body Works 3 Wick candle, dash in a few drops of my fave essential oil (I usually go for tea tree or lavender or both!) and hella bubbles.
2) Go For a Run
I started running because I needed to work out but couldn’t afford a gym membership, broke times. But then I found I felt so good afterwards and wanted to know why. Who did I turn to? Our trusty friend Google and this is what I discovered; exercising releases endorphins which can trigger a positive feeling in the body. On top of the physical benefits, regular exercise can also help to reduce stress and anxiety as well as boost self-esteem. And as if you needed anymore convincing exercise can also improve sleep - starting to notice a pattern here…
3) Write it down
People usually recommend that if you’re feeling down about something you should talk to someone about it. Admittedly I have never been very good at that. It would be easier for me to walk down the street in my underwear than to talk to somebody about I feel. Instead I have a notebook and when I feel like things are getting a bit overwhelming I write it down. A lot of the time it is just scribbles on page that I can’t even make sense of, but it is a way to get it out of my system. Writing thoughts and feelings down can be a positive way of expressing emotions and you may find your head a clear afterwards.
4) Turn the up the music
So a bit more science, listening to music realises dopamine which can cause feelings of happiness. I have a go-to playlist on Spotify which helps me chill when I need it most - perfect balance of calm vibes but not too much in the feels. I just turn up the volume and switch out the world.
These are just a couple things you could do when you’re feeling down. If you find yourself feeling down often and for long periods of time then it would be good to talk to someone about how you feel. This should be someone you trust such as a close friend, family member, or teacher.
There are also a bunch of organisations you can talk to that can give you confidential advice on your situation: